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My office sees far too many cases of teen dating violence, and they are vigorously prosecuted. As for your concerns about your child, this topic can be a difficult one to discuss, particularly when you are the parent or guardian of the adolescent involved. Adolescence is fraught with many physical and emotional changes. Young adults begin to socialize more with their peers. This can take precedence over their responsibilities at home and at school. Teens tend to rely on their peers for information and emotional support during this time. They become more secretive and withdrawn. This can happen whether or not your child is involved in a violent relationship. 

There are things you may want to look out for in your child’s dating relationship. What have you observed? Is your teen keeping up with her normal routine? Have her grades and school attendance been maintained? Have you seen any marks or bruising on your child? Does your teen’s partner call the house incessantly? Try to have an open dialogue with your teen about the concerns that you are having regarding her relationship. You may be surprised at how much information you will receive. Be prepared to learn things that you may not expect and which may be difficult to hear. 

What if you learn that your child is involved in a relationship where there is violence? 

If there has been an incident, e.g., your child was assaulted by her partner, your teen can file a police report at your local precinct or come directly to the Family Justice Center at 350 Jay Street in downtown Brooklyn. Once a report is filed and an arrest has been made, your child will be contacted by a social worker who coordinates the teen dating violence program in my office. Once a case is opened, your child will receive an order of protection mandating that the perpetrator remains at a specified distance from her. 

The social worker will schedule an appointment to meet your child and to talk about the incident as well as discuss any needs your teen may have at this time. Many young adults keep the violence a secret and they are often reluctant to have to share with others the details of their relationship. There can be feelings of guilt, shame and even blame. The social worker will provide services and support for your teen. As a parent/guardian, your love, support and guidance will be necessary to help your child through this difficult time. 

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